As we start 2018, do you feel grounded, healthy, pain-free and able to give the best you can to work, family and yourself?

If not, it’s only you who can change your own story. Perhaps you’re following the same pattern as your parents. If your a parent are your children following your same habitual pain pathways and behaviour that you have. People are always telling me about their back pain or condition but are not willing to put in the necessary time, willingness and resources to make a change. If your back trouble or condition took years to get there it won’t disappear in a six-week course. “You can’t solve the problem with the same thinking that caused it”. Albert Einstein

“We cannot give to others unless we have given to ourselves first.” This may seem a selfish quote but is very true, how can we give what we do not have to give. We must be an example of how to live rather than not how to live. If you’re a mother you will know this all too well, always putting everyone else first, but your own health and role are the most important in order to sustain well being in yourself.


Most of us want to get out of our heads, and I see this so many times whether the distraction is constantly working, drinking, smoking or eating. The hardest thing to do is to face yourself and go deep within our mind. It’s the toughest thing ever, consumerism knows this hence the immense sales of distractions whether they be material items or experiences such as mobile phones.

Some people seem called to help others, often from very early on in their childhoods, responding to the needs of family members, strangers, or animals with a selflessness that is impressive. Often, these people appear to have very few needs of their own, and the focus of their lives is on rescuing, helping, and healing others. While there are a few people who are truly able to sustain this completely giving lifestyle, the vast majority has needs that lie beneath the surface, unmet and often unseen. In these cases, their motivation to help others may be an extension of a deep desire to heal a wounded part of themselves that is starving for the kind of love and attention they dole out to those around them on a daily basis. For any number of reasons, they are unable to give themselves the love they need and so they give it to others. This does not mean that they are not meant to be helping others, but it does mean that they would do well to turn some of that helping energy within.


One problem with the rescuer model is that the individual can get stuck in the role, always living in crisis mode at the expense of inner peace and personal growth. Until the person resolves their own inner dramas, they play them out in their relationships with others, drawn to those who need them and often unable to acknowledge their own needs or get them met. In the worst-case scenario, they enable the other person’s dilemma by not knowing when to stop playing the rescuer and allow the person to figure it out on their own. However, if the rescuer finds the strength to turn within and face the needy aspects of their own psyche, he or she can become a model of empowerment and a true source of healing in the world.


Some signs that you or someone you love may need to rescue the rescuer within are inner burnout from overgiving; underlying resentment; an inability to admit to having needs of one’s own; and an unwillingness to be vulnerable. Help comes when we allow ourselves to admit we need it, acknowledging our humanity and our wholeness by acknowledging our pain. The understanding we gain in the process will naturally inform and inspire our ability to help those in need to do the same rescuer archetype.

“Infuse your life with action. Don’t wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honour your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen… yourself, right now, right down here on Earth.” Bradley Whitford


Carl Jung

“You can heal your life”- Louise Hay

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