I get enquiries every day for teacher training, chronic pain, Pilates apparatus and so on. These are the thoughts and actions that hold people back that prevent people from progressing forwards with me by signing up and in life.
- I don’t have the energy
- I don’t have the time
- I don’t have the skill
- The timing is not right
- I’ll join when X-Y-Z
In order to take back control you need to face your fears and be prepared for the challenges. You have to be prepared to put in the work, time, resources and energy to get where you want to go in life. These are the biggest procrastinations I hear from people.
Yet if what you are doing is working, why are you in such turmoil emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically??
More negative thoughts arise….
- Will it be worth it?
- What if it’s disappointing?
- What if I do all the work and don’t get the results I want?
True, yes, everything can be disappointing in life, but there is always an outcome. Achieving goals is about progress, learning and becoming more. Who do you become on the journey? What growth and contribution do you offer to the world? What can you learn from this situation? See yourself growing and expanding.
Our perception is always about the pain of the outcome. The key is to stay ethnocentric rather than egocentric. When you are egocentric , it’s all about you and your discomfort. Stop making the work/change about yourself and start thinking on how you are changing will influence other people. Who else would be impacted if you went through your fears? Who suffers if I don’t handle this?
Look at your palette. Our palette feeds are fears. Stop watching and listening to negativity, reality TV, mainstream media and people repeating the same victim and saboteur behaviour. Stop feeding your face with sugar and white carbs, this will put you into anxiety even more.
Start feeding your mind and body with information that feeds your focus:
- Whole foods
- Clean water
- Good sleep
In other words, fill your palette with inspiration. Surround yourself with people who are living courageous lives. Instead of : What if it goes wrong, it’s too hard, I can’t handle it, it’s too much, what if I lose???
Swap ‘WHAT IF’ to ‘EVEN IF’. Follow through on your words by taking action. Be clear on your vision. Yes, you might lose money and friends. But do you really want to be on your death bed saying: WHAT IF……
Success in your body, mind, relationships and career can only be three things:
- Who did I become?
- What impact did I have on other people? You have got to love a courageous life by leading by example.
- Did I live the life I was supposed to? Was it a blockbuster movie and Joseph Campbell’s hero’s journey?
Paul Mort – Inner Circle