What story are we holding onto….
In all my 30 years plus of teaching I have encountered many stories. This is the thing we all have a story, whether it’s physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. The danger is when we hold onto that story and let it rule our lives by the decisions that we make. We are all individual and everyone I meet is unique, the various stories that we tell ourselves limit, prevent and restrict our growth. In fact, many of the stories I hear have some VERY SIMILAR themes.
- “This happened TO me or was done TO me”
- “These are the events that caused me to struggle with depression, anxiety, guilt, shame, rage or a feeling of helplessness”
- “These events or people impacted my life negatively”
- “That event in my past shouldn’t have happened”
- “If only this had of happened, my life would have been better”
In many cases, people have run this story so often in their own heads that it has become woven into the very fabric of who they are. This quite often shows physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. The physical and emotional body cannot be separated. Holding onto stories can show in everything from posture to dis-ease…..
I love showing people how to unravel that thread so that they begin to see a new perspective on their life and experiences.
The process is actually quite simple. I begin asking them a series of questions (extracted from the Demartini Method and Paul Chek) that helps them to bring their perceptions into BALANCE.
In other words, to help get them to a place where they can find just as many upsides to any perceived downsides, or just as many downsides to any perceived upsides.
- The world around you can control you if you allow it. Many people run from the external world and blame things in their external world.
- There are 3 things you have control over: your PERCEPTIONS, your DECISIONS and your ACTIONS.
- An event is what you make it. If you choose to go by your first interpretation that it is ‘negative’ and you don’t take the time to find the upsides to it, it’s not because of the event, but because you’re choosing not to see the upsides to it. That’s your doing. It’s your PERCEPTION and has nothing to do with the world around you.
In other words, If you’re perceiving yourself to be frustrated and dissatisfied with your life, it has nothing to do with what happened out there or who did something to you. It has everything to do with how you INTERPRETED it.
For some people, this can be incredibly challenging to hear but I have yet to meet a person who has not had his or her own “breakthrough” when they’ve held themselves accountable to balance the mathematical equation of their perceptions and see the upside of what they at first perceived as a terrible or challenging event.
GREAT LIVES DON’T HAPPEN BY ACCIDENT. THEY’RE BUILT ON PURPOSE.